Two of the saddest words in the English language must be “if only”. In the classic film “The Wizard of Oz”, the scarecrow laments, “if only I had a brain.” The lion roars out, “if only I had courage.” The tinman causes himself to rust while tearing up, “if only I had a heart.” The three join Dorothy in her quest to return to Kansas, seeking their own gift from the wizard. After many trials, each discovers they had what they needed all along. They just had to learn it for themselves.
Frank L. Baum’s Oz story is an example of our blindness to our resourcefulness. A contemporary thought is ‘The Law of Attraction.’ The Law of Attraction teaches that you should clarify your desires and speak them out loud, clearly with no hesitation. There is no room for “if only” in the Law of Attraction.
What exists in your day dreams and how does “if only” prevent you from attaining it? A man once told me he dreamed of owning an exclusive island and “if only” he won the lottery he could afford it. But when he really clarified his dream, he wanted to spend quality time near the ocean with family and friends. He figured out how to schedule a few weeks each year travelling to the ocean with family and friends, creating wonderful memories. The reality he created was better than winning the lottery, in his opinion. He identified his “if only” and how to move past it.
What “if only’ exists in your life and how can your perspective shift to move past it? What story do you tell yourself to hold onto the “if only”? The scarecrow, lion, and tin man all felt they could achieve so much “if only” they had these extraordinary gifts. They underwent a challenging journey and learned they had what it takes to meet trying circumstances. What will you discover when you rise to meet your challenge? Let me know if I can help.