As a coach, one of my favorite things is to celebrate a client’s success with them. Acknowledging the attainment of goals and the challenging work that went into that goal is a special moment for both of us. Personally, like many people, I find it difficult to celebrate my own success. My method is to pause for a brief period, then figure out what is next and start working on it! Today I would like to share two achievements and share what is next.
First Achievement – I earned my CPC (Certified Professional Coach) when I graduated ICA (International Coach Academy) in July. Through this training, I learned how to coach clients through powerful life transformations. This learning occurred in an international community and I made friends for life with many people of diverse cultures. I cannot thank the faculty and students of ICA enough for all the learning, sharing, and book recommendations.
Second Achievement – I earned my ACC (Associate Certified Coach) credential from ICF (International Coaching Federation). The credential is not required to become a coach. Many fine coaches do not have one and I opened my practice prior to certification. However, ICF is dedicated to continual learning and growth of the coaching profession and upholds a strong code of ethics. The knowledge assessment exam is comparable to the GRE needed for entry to graduate school. I earned this credential to offer excellent value to my amazing clients.
OK, so what’s next? You may have noticed I am infected with a positive outlook on life. Two practices that are very important to me are gratitude and giving back. Many studies of well-being include gratitude and report benefits such as increased health and happiness. DYG Coaching will offer a free 30-day gratitude journaling workshop in November. A community Facebook group will be available for you to sign up in late October. Daily gratitude writing prompts will be posted and you can share your gratitude online within our community or privately in your own journal. Did I mention it is free? Your only investment will be your time and your gratitude.
Thank you for celebrating with me today. I look forward to celebrating gratitude with you for thirty days in November.
Two of the saddest words in the English language must be “if only”. In the classic film “The Wizard of Oz”, the scarecrow laments, “if only I had a brain.” The lion roars out, “if only I had courage.” The tinman causes himself to rust while tearing up, “if only I had a heart.” The three join Dorothy in her quest to return to Kansas, seeking their own gift from the wizard. After many trials, each discovers they had what they needed all along. They just had to learn it for themselves.
Frank L. Baum’s Oz story is an example of our blindness to our resourcefulness. A contemporary thought is ‘The Law of Attraction.’ The Law of Attraction teaches that you should clarify your desires and speak them out loud, clearly with no hesitation. There is no room for “if only” in the Law of Attraction.
What exists in your day dreams and how does “if only” prevent you from attaining it? A man once told me he dreamed of owning an exclusive island and “if only” he won the lottery he could afford it. But when he really clarified his dream, he wanted to spend quality time near the ocean with family and friends. He figured out how to schedule a few weeks each year travelling to the ocean with family and friends, creating wonderful memories. The reality he created was better than winning the lottery, in his opinion. He identified his “if only” and how to move past it.
What “if only’ exists in your life and how can your perspective shift to move past it? What story do you tell yourself to hold onto the “if only”? The scarecrow, lion, and tin man all felt they could achieve so much “if only” they had these extraordinary gifts. They underwent a challenging journey and learned they had what it takes to meet trying circumstances. What will you discover when you rise to meet your challenge? Let me know if I can help.
The edges of former Hurricane Irma, now Tropical Storm Irma are entering my hometown. Today’s blog post, “Your success is defined by YOU”, was outlined in my mind when I sat down at my desk, but then I quickly got distracted. The wind whips through the trees and the gutter outside has a drip – a drip perfectly timed to one second intervals, like the ticking of a clock. This drip mocks me, time is slipping away, one second at a time, and I am distracted from the writing of this blog.
My mind skips away to events of the past week, the past month, the past year. There have been so many challenges recently: Hurricanes Harvey and Irma, an 8.9 magnitude earthquake in Mexico; just as sixteen years ago, the news is filled with both tragic loss and heroic deeds. The heroic deeds are balm for the soul, pictures of people who showed up as the best version of themselves and helped others.
I think about how I spend my time and what I have to show for it. Time is a precious resource and I try to be strategic about where this resource is spent. It is not a resource that can be “banked” for later use; we receive 24 hours each day and they all must be spent. If we are granted another day, we receive another 24 hours. The 24 hours tick away, second by second, drip, drip, drip.
Perhaps the dripping gutter provides an adequate definition of “your success is defined by YOU”. One person’s dream of success is a title and corner office, another person dreams to be a star of a silver screen, and someone else dreams of building bridges to peace within their community. Maybe you have one enormous success dream or maybe you have many small success projects. We all have one resource in common while building our success. We all have 24 hours in a day. How can you invest 24 hours to your greatest success?
What are the building blocks for your success? We need sleep, food, and shelter to stay alive. Most of us are required to trade hours for dollars to buy these things. How will you invest the remaining hours each day? A wise woman told me she would add love to the list of things needed to stay alive. How will you invest time to give love, and thus receive? As I observe the world around me, the happiest people I know give and receive love in lives lived with great purpose.
Reviewing what I have written, this blog offers more questions than answers. There’s a good reason for that – the answers will vary widely due to your personal circumstances and preferences. As you define your success, you determine your own answers. Today can be the best day of your life. Today can be the day that you say “YES!” to your dream and begin the journey to your success. You have everything you need to take the first step and the world needs your special gift. March forward and invest wisely. Let me know if I can help with the questions along your way.